Pray for Olive Hope, Rusty and Lynette’s Baby Girl
By Paul Vernon on Sep 26, 2009 in Lori, Ministry Updates
Rusty and Lynette Polinder have been working with the Akha Youth Development Center here in Chiang Rai for the past couple of years and have been expecting their first child. Last night Lynette went into labor and gave birth to a baby girl 2.5 months premature.
Lynette is doing fine, but the baby girl is fighting for life. Rusty is currently in America & is flying out here as quickly as possible.
Please join us in lifting up the Polinder’s and this precious little life that she might gain the strength and health that she needs.
Cool story about the birth:
Lynette called us the night she was having the baby looking for the phone number for her OB/GYN. I looked in our contacts, but we no longer had his number, so I gave her Nancy’s phone number hoping Nancy might have it.
When she called Nancy, Lynette shared that she was currently in the hospital and in labor, but that the nurses at the hospital were unable to find the number for the delivering doctor.
With Lynette already in labor 2.5 months early, the last thing she needed was for the nurses to be unable to find the Doctor’s phone number, so as she hung up the phone with Lynette Nancy prayed “Lord, open those nurses eyes. They must have the number, please show them where it is” and left it in the hands of God.
The next day, Nancy visited Lynette and the new baby girl in the hospital and Lynette said to her:
“Thank you so much for getting a hold of Dr. Pitsanuk for me last night”
Shocked, Nancy said: “I wasn’t able to find the number last night either, who told you I called him?”
“Dr. Pitsanuk showed up in the hospital a little bit after we had spoken,” said Lynette, “and he said that you had called him and told him that I was in labor at the hospital and to come in right away.”
Whether it was an angel of God or a vision, there is no question that the miraculous hand of God has been on this baby girl and her birth from the beginning, and we are faithful that He will continue to give this little girl the miracles and strength she needs to hold on to life. Keep praying with us!
Baby’s Health Update
According to Rusty’s most recent status update, “…Baby went from being on 80% oxygen to 20% over night! Our prayers are being answered. She will be given another shot for her lungs in a few minutes. Pray she does not have any negative reactions! We will have name for her soon. right now i want to call her “fighter”. Thanks for all your love and support! God hears our prayers!”
Keep praying!
Olive Hope Update
Rusty arrived today!! He and Lynette named their beautiful little girl Olive Hope. She was born 1.295 kilos and she is fighting for her life right now.
Today Olive had a Pulmonary Hemorrhage. DEFINITION: Pulmonary hemorrhage (P-Hem) is an acute, catastrophic event characterized by discharge of bloody fluid from the upper respiratory tract or the endotracheal tube. The incidence of P-Hem is 1 in 1,000 live births. P-Hem is present in 7 to 10% of neonatal autopsies, but up to 80% of autopsies of very preterm infants. When evident clinically, P-Hem is usually massive, is associated with bleeding in other sites, involves more than one third of the lungs, and has a high mortality rate.
Currently, she is not getting enough oxygen and they can not turn it up any more. They also changed her antibiotic and they are afraid there may be some bleeding on the brain and are getting ready to do an ultrasound.
Rusty and Lynette (who has been discharged from the hospital) will be staying in our home in Chiang Rai which is near the hospital, and have a good support team around them – an American couple who speak Thai and have nursing and counseling backgrounds – but we need prayer for this little fighter to survive.
Let’s keep believing for miracles.
Rusty & Lynette’s Most Recent Note
Dear friends and family,
We have been overwhelmed by the prayers, love, and support we are feeling from all of you. We feel like we are on an emotional rollarcoaster….trying to hold on to hope for our little one, making decisions for her care, and then being moments from thinking we will have to say good-bye to her. We named her together today after Rusty arrived…Olive Hope Polinder (2.8 lbs)…born at 28.5 weeks.
Today was rough. Started off encouraging. One important medicine that we were encouraged to get to her ASAP (surfactant for her little lungs that didn’t have time to develop enough) was driven overnight from a friend of ours from Chiang Mai. She received her first dose at 1:00am last night and responded well, giving them the ability to decrease the level of oxygen she is on from 60% to 40%. This morning she had her second dose, and seemed to be responding well to that. This afternoon around 2:00 I was getting discharged from the hospital and got a phone call to come as urgently as possible to the hospital she is at (about 10 minutes away) and said she wasn’t doing well. We arrived to find out she had a pulmonary hemorrhage and they needed to draw my blood for a possible transfusion. Her heart rate was dropping, as well as her oxygen level. We sang to her, prayed over her, and cried that we wouldn’t have to say good-bye before Rusty landed and met her. It took about 25 minutes for them to stabilize her with a new respirator. They had to then increase her oxygen level to 100%…which increases the risk of other complications.
Current complications she has…PDA (a little hole in her heart that hasn’t closed). They gave her medication for this tonight that helps 80% of pre-term babies with this problem.
She also has an enlarged heart…but they said with the last x-ray that it seems to be getting a little smaller.
Possible Intraventricular hemorrhage (bleeding in her brain). This can only be confirmed by an ultrasound which has not been done yet…this is the Dr’s assumption by symptoms she is seeing.
It seems like the pulmonary hemorrhage has stopped and is looking better.
The bleeding has made this little one anemic, so this evening she was starting on a blood transfusion this evening around 9 our time.
They are having a hard time stabilizing her. She is on 100% oxygen…which we want to be reduced as soon as her little body can handle it. We thought we were also going to lose her this evening around 6:30 when he O2 saturation levels dropped to 10%. They were able to give her some medication to bring it back up.
We are exhausted emotionally and physically. So glad to be together again. Pray that we will have the strength we need for the moments ahead and the ability to trust Jesus through all of this. Pray for sweet little Olive…that Jesus would work a miracle and breath life into her little body.
One top of all of this we are having insurance complications and unsure what will be covered…so please pray for that.
Much love,
Lynette and Rusty
Newest update this morning via Facebook:
Not the news we wanted to hear this morning.Looks like there has been swelling in the brain overnight, we have a meeting with the doctors this morning. Pray for wisdom. Also have the Elders of our church coming from the mountains to pray healing prayers over olive this morning. The Lord is our only hope..I life my eyes to hills, where does me help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth.
Olive Hope’s Evening Update:
When the Polinder’s called the hospital first thing this morning, they were informed that the baby had suffered a seizure and wasn’t doing well at all. Prayerfully, Rusty and Lynette made the decision to stop making heroic efforts to keep Olive alive, knowing the torment it caused her. When they arrived at the hospital, they said to the nurses, “Can’t we just hold her? We just want to hold our baby.” Minutes after she was taken from the incubator and placed on her mother’s chest, her vital signs went up.
Suddenly, her temperature dropped and the nurses wanted to put her back in. Lynette pleaded to keep holding her, warming her with her own body heat. She held her for three hours, and Olive’s tiny body seem to draw strength from her mother and begin to heal. Her will to stay alive is evident, and we believe this is the Lord’s will for her as well. Please keep praying for a miracle.
From their facebook update: We took her out of the glass, and lynette has been holding her to her chest. Olive loves the attention, and she seems to be doing well. There is much concern with the brain problems. We have just been singing God’s promises over our little girl. She is part of a Covenant. She belongs to Christ! she continues to fight, we have seen progress since lynette has been holding her. Love you guys. Rusty
Newest update from Rusty via Facebook:
Olive has made it through another day. Lynette and I are headed to bed. Very hard to leave Olive. Bethany(our dear friend) gets here in the Morning. Norm and Carol (Lynette’s folks) in route as we speak. Lynette and I just sat and read all your comments! You have no idea how much your support helps us! Thank you!
Newest update from Lynette via Facebook:
Olive made it through the night! Libby our dear friend took her through the night. Libby and Jan giving her skin to skin, praying and singing over her! Please pray as we meet with doctors today to understand what is going on in her brain. God touch her. Keep fighting Olive! And thanks to everyone fighting with us!
I am overwhelmed by all of your prayers, love, and support. I wish I could respond more individually, but all of my time is either with her or trying to sleep. So grateful and thankful to have such an amazing group of friends and family holding us up right now.
Update via Phone conversation/email:
The doctors did an ultrasound on Olive to check the damage caused by the cerebral hemorrhage. On a scale of one to four, she registered four – the highest level of damage. According to doctors, this means she will be handicapped in some way. Of course, Lynette and Rusty simply yearn for their daughter to live. They are seeing bit-by-bit improvements as they and their friends take turns cuddling Olive with life-giving touch. Please join with us in prayer that the damage will be reversed as the Holy Spirit and the Body of Christ love on this precious one.
Rusty & Lynette’s Most Recent Note
Dear loved ones,
Yesterday was such a special day. We were both able to spend hours holding little Olive on our chests spending time talking to her and singing over her, We have been overwhelmed by the e-mails, phone calls, facebook messages, and visitors. We are being held up by the prayers of so many we know and love, and also by many who have heard the news who we don’t even know personally.
Today has been like each day so far since little Olive Hope has arrived…filled with moments of joy, moments of fear, moments of uncertainty, sadness, hope and thankfulness.
This morning she had an ultrasound done to assess the level of intracranial hemorrhage that she had the other night. There are four levels–one being the least severe with little long term complications and four being the most serious and highest risk of long term complications. Olive had a level four intracranial hemorrhage. The doctors are telling us that if she makes it she will certainly have serious cognitive and motor damage..(mentally handicapped, cerebral palsy…and the list could go on). There is also a high risk of blindness due to the high concentrations of oxygen they have had to keep her on. She is also still anemic so she is getting blood transfusions. And this morning she was very jaundiced so we had to keep her under a photo-therapy light most of the day. Because of her brain damage she is no longer able to blink her little eyes. They remain open ALL the time unless we reach and blink them for her. They only have her on IV so far and say she can’t have any breast milk until they hear bowel sounds. My milk has come in, so as of now I have been pumping and storing it in the freezer.
Our hearts are aching for this little one. We are willing and ready to care for a little girl with handicaps if Jesus chooses to give her to us. Part of us is also hoping and longing to see a miracle. Another part of us feels very afraid…of all the unknowns to come. She has had every possible complication and to the most severe level thus far…and yet there is something in me that keeps holding onto some sort of hope. And another part of me that doesn’t want her little body to suffer any longer. Thoughts are going and coming in all directions.
We have been asked today if we want them to continue aggressive treatment measures, or if we would like to stop those treatments and simply let her go. Yesterday I thought we were feeling ready to let her go because of how much misery she was going through…and now we have been through two days of holding her and seeing her vital signs increase…and I’m not ready yet to let her go.
All this to say…decision making has felt difficult, but today has been a day when I am going to bed with hope for life for this little one…
And just enough strength to make it through this day by threads. And exhausted.
Jesus has indeed been drawing us closer and closer to Him through this journey…our only place to find any hope in this circumstance.
We can feel your love and support all around us.
Love,
Lynette
Images and updates at Rusty and Lynette’s Blog
Status update via Facebook
Had a wonderful day today. Olive was on 30% oxygen all day. And her lungs kept up for all 10 hours i was with her. The nurses are taking such good care of our Olive. A day of hope…we will take it! Thanks for your prayers!
Status update via A Window into Our World : Rusty and Lynette’s Blog
Excerpt: …Our BIG prayer request is that she would have bowel sounds so that they can begin giving her the milk and colostrum that I have been freezing. She has only been on an IV with dextrose and some other electrolytes and is soooo little and skinny. The Dr. says that there are many factors at the moment for why she has to be NPO (nothing by mouth), but the biggest fear is that if we give her nutrition before her gut is ready, she may get necrotizing enterocolitis… <– read more –>
Status update via Facebook
Olive’s platelet count was very low today. They also found more infection in her blood. No bowel sounds yet. Lynette is having a hard time sleeping and starting to feel a bit sick, but thankful that her parents have arrived safe and sound
Status update from Rusty via Facebook
Much better day. Olive was very happy to meet her Grandpa and Grandma Miller. She was very responsive today. She does have swelling in her brain, and we are concerned so please just pray that God will continue to heal her. Lynette slept for 10 hours …and is now with Olive. I used to think facebook was a waste of my time, but now im so thankful for it! You have been our strength friends and family! Rusty
From Lynette’s Mom’s Facebook (via a FB friend): Even though her Olive’s head circumference increased last night, there are also signs of hope. She now opens and closes her eyes on her own. They were afraid of blindness and handicaps due to the bleeding in the brain. She had her first bowel sounds during the night, and so pray that they continue so we can feed her Lynette’s colostrum and milk she is saving up.
I believe God will heal Olive Hope “in his own time” and Lynette and Rusty are committed to take care of her regardless of the outcome as long as God gives her breath. They are counting the cost of what it will mean in Thailand, where handicapped people are treated rudely. he doctor and staff have been absolutely wonderful to Lynette and Rusty. Lynette and Rusty highly respect them.
Lynette wrote a beautiful letter to Olive and shared more pictures on their website.
Good news from Lynette’s Facebook Update:
Sat Morning: Today Olive regained the ability to blink and could sleep with her little eyes closed. She also had one stool and had bowel sounds!!!! She will undergo another ultrasound of her brain on Monday to assess if she has had any more bleeding. Her head circumference is growing, so please pray for this. I have a cold so was not able to hold her for the last two days…please pray for my health.
Sat Night: No complications to the colostrum thus far! They gave her 1 cc of colostrum 4 times today. A Thai friend of ours (Ichaya) is spending the night with Olive so that we can all get some rest. Rusty had a good time singing to her today. I’m trying not to touch her much until I am feeling 100% better.
Praise God, Olive continues to show progress. Her digestive system is responding well to the colostrum. She is still blinking and sleeping with her eyes closed. However, her head circumference continues to increase. Pray for good news from the ultrasound on Monday Morning (Sunday evening US time). Read the full post here.
Here is the latest update on Olive Hope. Rusty and Lynette, are doing a great job of updating their own blog, so we will discontinue the updates on this post. Please continue to join with us in prayer for Olive and the Polinders and update your bookmarks or rss feeds to continue following the Polinder’s directly!
Rusty and Lynette:
We are keeping you and your little one in our prayers. God loves you and so do we.
Dale and Hilda Clark
you are in our thoughts & prayers.
We are praying for your little girl, she is a fighter, girl babies are! congrats on your new daughter.
Rusty and Lynette,
We love you and are praying for Olive. Libby has kept up informed. Probably, Olive isn’t her name but for now, in my heart, she is Olive. Love, MA and Wally
R & L–Lots of folks in Chi-town praying for you and Olive. We know God is in control and His will always works for our good. Trust in Him, our rock and salvation, and we will find shelter in His wings.
We love you and your sweet little Olive and we are praying all through the day for you guys. May the Lord of HOPE give you peace and strength
As a friend of a friend of the parents, I heard about this on facebook. I had twin daughters 4 years ago that were 3 months early, and know everything that they are going through. Our thoughts and prayers are with them. If they need someone to talk to that has been through all of this, please send my e-mail their way. Know that it will get better, and Olive will grow to be a strong and healthy child! Have faith, and know that there are prayers and love coming from all around the world.
Take care,
-Lindsay Mizer
We prayed for you in church this morning and I am moved to tears to think of how your heart aches. Praying for safety for your parents as they will hopefully arrive safely soon, and be able to wrap their arms around you like we would all like to. Bless you and your sweet baby Olive.
we are lifting you up today!!
loving you from ‘home’.
-traci
Rusty & Lynette,
So glad to hear you are back to your beloved Thailand serving the LORD.
I promise to pray for you & little Olive Hope.
Psalm 130:7
Hope in God Rusty & Lynette, for with the LORD is unfailing love and with him is FULL redemption.
Bless you! Angi Nash (Julia’s mom)
God is Great and He is Good!I’m praying that He will do good and great things in the life of your precious little girl.
With Love, Joy
God is Great and He is Good. I’m praying that He will do good and great things in the life of your precious little girl.
With Love, Joy
Rusty and Lynette, You do not know me, but I met you last year in farang church with Lori Vernon (my daughter). Please be assured that I am praying often around the clock for your little Olive Hope. May Jesus the healer breathe life and health into every fiber of her little being. Praying for you both as well. JAN C.
Heavenly Father,
We praise You for being on the throne and in control of all things.
We boldly pray complete healing and restoration over Olive Hope.
We pray against further infection and that you would command your angels of protection over her.
R & L,
What an extraordinary name for your little fighter.
Thinking and praying hard.
Just want you to know that you are being prayed for from Salem Oregon. Praying that you will feel the strength of the Lord during these fragile days.
I am one of Stacia’s students. I am praying for you both and Olive. May God quiet your spirits with His peace and give you all comfort.
Our thoughts and prayers continue to be with you both, and with Olive Hope and all those who are helping to take care of her. May God give you peace and strength.
You do not know me but I am a sister in Christ…I live in the States and am praying for your little Hope. I am praying for Power Within!!! Ephesians 4:20 says “Now unto him that is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us.” Above all that we ASK and all that we could THINK…Lord I pray in the NAME OF JESUS that Lynette and Rusty tap into that POWER…that they find strength there for the days ahead…Lord we ask for a healing of this precious baby girl…We ask that the hole in her heart be healed, that her brain be miraculously healed, that she suffer no more injury, that she breath the BREATH OF LIFE..and need the oxygen machines no more…That YOU oh GOD give the doctors divine wisdom as to what to do regarding this little one… That if there is any other problem that it be healed or found and corrected in Jesus Name…it is by YOUR stripes we are healed…Blessings H
Dear Parents of Olive Hope,
Stacia and I knew each other at Calvin. Please know that you are in our prayers — all of you. What a joy your new little one is, and what a miracle the love of a mother is. Know that we care and that we love little Olive from afar,
Tracey Kooy and family
Rusty & Lynette, Melissa VD texted me to ask for prayers & I have been continually praying since. Much grace and peace to you both, and to little Olive Hope.
Dear Rusty & Lynette,
You are in our thoughts and prayers around the clock. We ask for God’s healing presence to be with you three. Love, Kathy Nevius
Rusty and Lynette,
I also do not know you but I am in Anna Herbes care group at church. I will pray for your little Olive and for your doctors and for you guys also. Like someone else said, little girls do have more fight in them than little boys. You are being lifted up!!
Rusty & Lynette,
Although I do not know you, you are my brother & sister in Christ. My cousin works with your dad, Lynette. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Through God all things are possible. May He give you the strength & Peace.
Dear Rusty & Lynette,
We are praying that the Lord, our healer, will touch your precious, Olive Hope, and breathe life into her as she struggles for each breath. I went to a Casting Crowns concert last night and was again reminded of Ps. 121, I noticed it in your comments, too. “I lift my eyes up to the hills, where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth.” Praise Him through this storm. He will see you through it.
We love you and are continuing to lift your needs before our God. Love, Aunt Gloria
Dear Lynette & Rusty,
You do not know me, but I am a sister in Christ, and my heart goes out to you and little Olive Hope. I am joining you in prayer for Olive Hope, and believing with you for total healing of this little body. God is able! Begin to read from the book of Matthew, the Lord healed all who came to him, stand on his promises and keep the faith and he shall bring it to pass. my prayers are with you and Rusty.May God grant you strength and rest, physically emotionally, mentally and spiritually, and may you know his comfort and peace through this difficult time.
Rusty and Lynette,
Congratulations on your baby girl. We are keeping you and your precious little Olive Hope in our prayers.
Dear Rusty and Lynette,
We have been praying for you and praying that Norm and Carol can get to you. We send our love and concern for your well being in soul and spirit.
Isaiah 42:16
I will lead the blind by ways they have not known,along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things i will do; I will not forsake them.
Love, Joye and Ellis
I have been following along on “allthosemillers” website and want you to know you are in my prayers as you go through this journey. May it encourage you to know that our granddaughter was born one year ago at 25 weeks, weighing 1 lb 8 oz, 12 inches long and she just celebrated her first birthday and cut her first tooth. It’s been a long prayerful journey but God is good and I pray that Olive Hope grows stronger each day and you remain strong throughout this up and down journey. God bless you.
Dear Rusty and Lynette,
I am praying for little Olive from Japan. I am believing little ones have amazing power.
I will continue to pray.
Love, Kayo
Dear Rusty and Lynette,
We are storming the gates of heaven on behalf of you and your sweet baby daughter. No words that come from my mouth can bring the comfort you need right now. God’s peace, the peace that passes all understanding can! I am praying for miracles that never cease and believing that He can do all things. Please know the love and strength that we are all willing your way. We’ll continue to pray for Olive Hope every moment.
Love,
Troy and the Remick family
A great prayer and update can be found at http://8hands2hold.com/2009/09/29/urgent-prayers/
You are in my thoughts and prayers!
“His oath His covenant, His blood, supports me in the whelming flood. When all around my soul gives way, He then is all my hope and stay. On Christ the solid rock I stand, all other ground is sinking sand; all other ground is sinking sand.”
My heart hurts for you. God give you strength!
I’m touched by your story and the outpouring of love and prayers. I’ll carry her with me through my days and pray for your strentgh as new parents too.
You don’t know me – I work with a friend of yours – but have read your inspiring story and promise to include all of you in my prayers. May God’s healing power carry all of you through safely, and may the support of so many wonderful friends give you continued strength. God Bless little Olive Hope!
First of all I want to say… pray, pray, pray. Lynette you don’t know me and Rusty I think you probably remember me since we went to the same school and all but either way if you remember me or not I just wanted you to know that I have walked in your shoes. On November 26, 2004 I gave birth to a baby boy who was born at 30 weeks (although I was told he stopped growing at 28). He weighted 2lbs. 15 oz. and dropped down to 2 lbs. 9 oz. Today, Ryker is with us and is a healthy, right where he needs to be 4 1/2 year old. It is so hard the days after their birth to watch your child lie in an incubator, machines hooked up everywhere, things covering their face and so tiny you can practically see through their skin and all you want to do is hold them and(which I suggest you do as often as you can, I believe this helps them to continue there fight) When we were in the NICU we seen all sorts of babies and all different outcomes. You just have to remember that God is in control of little Olive’s life. I know how hard it is to leave your baby there when it is time to leave but God is always looking over her. I pray for her to get strong and continue the fight! I feel for you guys and pray that God comforts you in this time of difficulty. Keep the faith!
Hello,
My name is Michelle Vernon Crutcher and I am Paul Vernon’s cousin. My family and I are keeping you all in our prayers and we know that God has a very special plan for each and every one of us. We have 2 children and can’t imagine what you are going through. God bless you and your family.
Blessings,
The Crutcher family
Lynette and Rusty,
I know you don’t know me but my hope is that you find comfort in knowing that all of us are praying for you and hoping that little Olive is healed of all her medical complications. I also pray that she isn’t suffering but gaining strength through your touch and your song! God be with you and Olive as you trudge on through this difficult journey. Hold tight to Jesus’ words and lean on him always. He will bring you through!!
God Bless you
Melanie Jackson
Goshen, IN
I’m an Akha serving the Lord in Bangkok. Please know that my cell group here has been lifting your family up since we heard the news. We are believing God will heal your little daughter. Thank you for your heart for the Akha people.
Like many others, you don’t know me, but I’m praying for you and the wonderful gift of Olive Hope whom God has given you. Congratulations on your beautiful little daughter!
Remember, God knows what He’s doing. Whatever happens, “The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” (Deut. 31:8)
Rusty, Lynette, & Olive-
We talked with Wayne and Melody this past weekend and have praying for you since. I pray that you will feel God’s presence as you make all of the difficult decisions that you face. I pray that God will continue to give Olive strength through your skin to skin.
Dave and Teneesa
My prayer is that God will give the ultimate decision on little Olive Hope’s life. Just seeing her in your arms brings tears to my eyes and prayers from my depths that God be with all of you and touch Olive with His healing right hand. In Jesus name I pray for all of you!!! AMEN (It is done)
Dear Polinders:
I attend church with your friend, Jeremy Showalter. We lifted your family in prayer at our recent prayer meeting. My heart and prayer goes out to you. A bit of healing came to me during a difficult time in my life when Jesus reminded me that when I couldn’t be at my loved one’s bedside 24/7, and even when I was, Jesus was there ever closer, ever nearer, with even greater love than my own. Olive Hope is loved and held in a supernatural way that surpasses all understanding. We’re standing with you in prayer.
Rusty & Lynette,
Continuing to keep you in our prayers. God is the great healer! Give Olive Hope a big hug. We love you–Connie & Bob
All of your prayers have been felt. We have witnessed peace in the midst of turmoil and pain for Rusty and Lynette. I know how much R & L were looking forward to a little girl running up the rough Akha village roads with them…As one of her Grandma’s, I am releasing her to God’s will for her life. I know R & L want only what is best for Olive.